Current relationship status: As single as they come.
What qualities catch your eye?
Beauty, character, fun to be with, attractive without clearly trying to be attractive.
What turns you off about Christian women?
High anxiety, suspicious of men who pursue them, not willing to give a guy a chance unless she already wants to marry him.
How are things faring with the ladies, in general?
NOT GOOD, seems there are always girls that ‘like me’ but it never seems to turn that into an actual relationship.
That last question was just a diplomatic way of getting the dirt. Boy, why you single?
Wish I knew. I know I’m not the most social guy and probably haven’t done a good job of “getting out there”, but I can think of a few situations where it might have worked out if the girl had given me a chance.
What is the biggest misconception women have about men?
That we know what they’re thinking. I never have any idea. You have to tell me!!!
What do you wish you understood about women?
Why is awkwardness the only unforgivable sin? So many girls seem to date horrible guys because somehow it just feels right. Why not date a good guy and have hope that it just takes time for the awkwardness to fade?
Name your shame. Favorite 90’s ballad? Affection for Lifetime movies? Convince us there’s a mortal behind the facade of perfection that you’re currently rocking.
I watch Glee. And I love it.
Christians who’re dating face all sorts of moral/logistical conundrums. Where (or to whom) do you look for advice and insight?
I like talking to men who are married because they give me advice with no agenda other than my well being. With single guys there’s often the competition factor. They may well be after the girl I’m asking them for advice about.
If a girl is interested, what’s her best recourse (other than batting of the eyelashes)?
Batting eyelashes is awesome, first of all. But the biggest thing is attention. I start to think a girl might like me if she tries to talk to me whenever we’re in the same place, doesn’t look for a way out of the conversation, and remembers things I said awhile ago.
Should a girl be so bold as to ask you out?
I’m not a fan. Sorry, but I still want to feel like a man and be the one to take that big risk. Hints are great, though. No harm in ‘putting out the vibe.’
What is the biggest difference between dating as a Christian and dating as a non-Christian?
It’s all about marriage. Non-Christians have no problem with dating willy-nilly but for Christians there is much more at stake.
How can the church support healthy relationships?
By creating a comfortable environment where people can date each other but know that if it doesn’t work out everyone will understand and they won’t be viewed as “off limits”. I had a girl turn me down last year because she said she wouldn’t date anyone at our church because it ruined friendships. Break ups can be messy, but that’s just life and I don’t think it should hinder anyone from dating someone within their circle. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t, but you’ll never know if you don’t have freedom to try.
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