Just how high does the creep factor reach when dating couples pray together? Is there any value in spending time before God with the person who has turned you into a smitten kitten? The ladies discuss the benefits and dangers of praying in a relationship. Feel free to leave a comment below with your thoughts.
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i heard a very eligible single girl say once “.. yeah he prayed for me and i thought it was hot!” but another time a different very eligible single said “i don’t let guys pray with/for me 1-1 unless we’re solidly dating because then i’m allowing him to have spiritual authority in my life.”
so i suppose both comments support praying together when a couple feels solid about each other … but in the end it’s all about how spiritually mature both people are, in my opinion. as you grow together emotionally, intimacy through prayer should match.
This is a great conversation topic. Thanks for discussing it!
If you’re both Christian and are in a serious relationship, I think it’s a good idea to start praying together, but after a certain point. I wouldn’t recommend it on a first date…unless it’s praying for the food.
I find that whenever I’m praying with another person, whether it’s a friend, a small group member, or someone I’m dating – it deepens my relationship with that person. =)
This is one of those issues that can kind of blindside you if you’re not prepared for it beforehand. I definitely had a moment in my most recent relationship where I found myself leaving the room to pray about something. And in that moment you kind of realize that there are things that are really important to you which are also still very personal and which you may not yet be ready to share with your significant other. For instance, one of the things you might want to pray about is guidance from God about whether or not you should continue seeing the person you’re with… kind of an awkward thing to pray with your partner about! But getting to that point where you can be that intimate with your partner can be a very rewarding experience and opens up the opportunity for even greater growth in your relationship.
Praying with or without your partner, friend or whomever. Should not feel awkward in any way. It should really make the other person feel akward as to why they are NOT praying. I have been on many first dates in the past. And everyone knows that the first date means alot, and a little thing as praying before you eat, is something I did not see alot of. It kind of shifted the atmosphere, where it showed that I am a serious person, I am faithful and not a follower. It actually told me alot about the person that i am sitting across from. Not saying that that person doesn’t believe in GOD, but it show how close they are with GOD. Then thats when GOD becomes a third wheel at our table and it forces both of us to be positive to one another and honest about our time together. Whether it is short or long term, it doesn’t matter. Praying is always good anywhere, everywhere, anytime and whomever thinks its funny or awkward, obviously plays for the other team. That’s my opinion.
Don’t do it on a first date unless you want to fly the freak flag.
It will only make your date feel uncomfortable because you will come across as showy, fake or judgmental.
Simply wait until you get to know each other a bit. Remember the Bible clearly says pray in private.
Once you are a couple then do what you feel is good as a couple.